Dear Eric: I have spent a year helping my elderly parents sell their house and pay off tremendous debt, mostly due to my mother’s spending and hoarding. My father is unable to handle anything due to health issues. I have had help from my family so I’m not alone in this. I am still very involved with helping them with finances and doctors.
They are in a small rental now with no maintenance or yard duties. My issue is the bad feelings I have toward my mother after all we went through packing her house, moving them, dealing with the movers, dumpsters, estate and house sales.
She makes comments often about us taking her things away and taking her money (not true, but it is in safekeeping because of her very poor handling of money).
She…